January 28, 2017
This week a client came into my office and said that she felt like she has two voices in her head – one that desires a glass of wine at the end of the day, and the other which chastises her for being “lazy” and “irresponsible” for wanting, or having, that glass.
“ARGH! It’s like I have to convince myself that it’s okay for me to have that glass of wine. How do I get rid of this?”
Pretty much everyone has some version of this story for themselves. The dang inner critic that tells us that we’re fat, lazy, stupid, mean, disrespectful, saying that we should know better or that we’re not doing what we’re supposed to be doing, questioning our every move, our every bite, our every word…. It’s exhausting.
The most common responses to this inner critic are either to listen to it, and then feel badly about ourselves, or to yell back and fight it. Both are draining and, in the end, perpetuating the inner drama. What if there’s another way?