Clear And Now Blog

Liz’s Theme of the Week 10/23-10/29: What am I to learn from this?
October 30, 2016
Liz's Theme,Self-Help — By Liz Varney

Woooheee, was this week wonky or what? The tone of my sessions this week felt heavy and turbulent, like walking through mud. Many people were facing less-than-optimal situations in their lives, and felt downright frustrated and annoyed at the continual issues that barely budged despite their best efforts to move their stories forward.

In these times of strife, struggle, and less-than-optimal circumstances, I find people dismiss their experience and do what they think they should do which is to turn their less-than-optimal feelings into a “bright side” moment.

I have heard it time and time again: (more…)

A Soul Perspective on Hillary Clinton
October 24, 2016
Election,Mindfulness — By Dave Eyerman

What must it be like to be the first woman to be a major party’s nominee for President of the United States?

This role is not for the light-hearted or the weak-willed. Regardless of gender, running a campaign for President is not an easy endeavor. It is grueling and arduous in ways most of us can’t even imagine.

Being the first woman in this role is bound to highlight gender issues in the country. The comments automatically, mindlessly, and routinely thrown her way reveal our deep divide on gender in this country. The way we speak inherently highlights our deeper, ingrained subconscious ideas on gender roles. (more…)

Liz’s Theme of the Week 10/16-10/22: Acceptance is Not a Life Sentence
October 22, 2016
Liz's Theme,Mindfulness,Self-Help — By Liz Varney

I found myself without a clear theme this week. I had a couple emerging topics but nothing was overwhelmingly powerful from this week’s work. So, I took my own advice from my previous blog “Ask for what you want, how you want it” and I asked the universe to send me a sign on Friday about what the blog topic should be. I helped the universe out by giving a couple options, then released the request off of my shoulders, feeling confident that I would be provided for.

In a text conversation with a friend on Friday, one of my possible writing topics came up, and with a big smile and an out loud “A-ha!,” the topic was decided. This week’s theme is about “Acceptance.” And, just because the universe is so amazing, it gave me a little extra confirmation (more…)

Why Did This Happen?
October 19, 2016
Mindfulness — By Dave Eyerman

This is a question I am asked with frequency.

For instance, I have a client Jane who is going through a very painful separation from her husband. As she is sitting in a lot of emotional turmoil, feeling rejected, alone, and despair, amongst a host of other not-so-fun emotions, she painfully asks, “Why is this happening?”

I find a lot of times when this question is posed, we look to the past to answer it. Attempts to find meaning in our pain often looks to point out its source. It makes sense why – the idea is to  trace back the steps that led up to this event, so we can either have somewhere to focus our anger and our blame, and/or so we can take measures to ensure those exact steps never happen again.

Neither of those ultimately work. If we find somewhere to focus our anger and our blame, it runs the risk of unfairly cementing them, and not actually resolving them. If someone else is to blame, we will remain in fear or victimhood and not the empowered place of self-reflection and ultimately forgiveness.

Similarly, if we discover every single specific step taken ahead of whatever event is causing us turmoil, there is no guarantee it won’t happen again. We need to learn from our past mistakes, but things will never happen exactly the same in the future. Certain themes or patterns may play out again, but as the future is always unfolding, we will never know exactly what will happen next. Rest assured that things that are pleasurable and not (and all colors in between) will happen again, and they will look different from what has unfolded in the past.

So what if instead we consider the question “Why?” about now and about the future? What if we all have the control to create the answer to that question? (more…)

A Soul Perspective on Donald Trump
October 17, 2016
Election,Mindfulness — By Dave Eyerman

Donald Trump as a human has caused many other humans a lot of pain and injustice with his financial policies, narcissism, terrible boundaries, and unwarranted sexual advances.

This post is not about his human-ness, not about trying to find sympathy for the man. This is about his Soul, about how his actions can be viewed as helping all of us wake up.

To start, I want to be clear that in no way, shape, or form am I condoning his actions. In no way am I saying, “Well, this has a positive Soul-level effect, so it’s worth it.” There are many paths to deepening and broadening Awareness, many of which do not leave a wake of human suffering and trauma.

That being said, here is a Soul-level perspective on how Donald Trump has helped us all wake up. (more…)