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Mindfulness And The Myth Of The Unreal Other
May 20, 2016
Meditation,Mindfulness — By Dave Eyerman

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“That dude cut me off! What a jerk!” is a sentiment I *may* have expressed a few times in my life. But what do I truly know about the other driver?

When I call him a jerk, I’m basing my entire opinion of this person’s ability to drive, and even their character, on one particular moment of his driving lifetime.

I pulled into Dunkin Donuts one morning for a cup of coffee, and the cashier was gruff. She seemed annoyed that I didn’t have the money ready the moment she told me the cost. That was only exacerbated by my decision to pay with exact change, so I could begin to shrink my ever-growing pile of coins in my car.

I said thank you to her when I received my drink, and she did not respond. She just closed the drive-thru window and I was on my way.

It would be easy for me to say, “Wow, what a rude person!”

However, our interaction lasted maybe 30 seconds. It may have been a rude interaction, but it’s not fair of me to judge her entire character based on those 30 seconds.