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You Make Me Feel…
December 7, 2015
Mindfulness — By Dave Eyerman

“You make me feel so mad!”
“He makes me feel so bad about myself whenever he’s near.”
“My mom makes me feel so guilty about not calling her.”

This is common language for us. We are often looking at others as the cause of why we feel what we do. But this is completely disempowered thinking. Others have no more control over what we feel than they do what we wear.

“But-but-but… it’s true! My mom makes me feel so guilty.” No, not exactly. She may use manipulative language in an attempt to evoke those feelings within you, but those feelings are yours.

I was in a conversation with one of my first teachers when I was a teenager, and we were speaking about how I felt in life. In a moment of frustration, I blurted out, “I have no control over my emotions!” to which she calmly, almost bemusedly, looked at me and said, “Well, whose emotions are they?” (more…)