Clear And Now Blog

Liz’s Theme of the Week: This is not a political post
February 5, 2017

Don’t worry, this is not a political post. Although my clients have been talking about the “current political climate” all week.. well really for a couple weeks now.

It’s been very fascinating for me as a social worker and psychotherapist to witness my client’s journeys during this “current political climate.” I must say there is a part of me that is extremely fascinated by something my schooling taught me about long ago but never truly experienced in my work until now.

I don’t recall the exact name of the class, although it was something like “Social Policy,” or something like that. I also don’t recall my professor’s name either, although he has been one of the ones I remember most from graduate school. He was an older gentleman, closer to retirement than most. His classroom was in the basement of the building with no windows. He wore Birkenstocks with socks, and although that did endear me to him, for the first few weeks I thought he and his class was incredibly boring. A year with him later, I felt quite the opposite. (more…)




Screw You, Inner Critic!
January 28, 2017
Mindfulness,Self-Help — By Dave Eyerman

This week a client came into my office and said that she felt like she has two voices in her head – one that desires a glass of wine at the end of the day, and the other which chastises her for being “lazy” and “irresponsible” for wanting, or having, that glass.

“ARGH! It’s like I have to convince myself that it’s okay for me to have that glass of wine. How do I get rid of this?”

Pretty much everyone has some version of this story for themselves. The dang inner critic that tells us that we’re fat, lazy, stupid, mean, disrespectful, saying that we should know better or that we’re not doing what we’re supposed to be doing, questioning our every move, our every bite, our every word…. It’s exhausting.

The most common responses to this inner critic are either to listen to it, and then feel badly about ourselves, or to yell back and fight it. Both are draining and, in the end, perpetuating the inner drama. What if there’s another way?

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Liz’s Theme of the Week: Flitting
January 24, 2017
Liz's Theme,Mindfulness,Self-Help — By Liz Varney

This week had a very clear question from my clients: “How can I have better time management?”

I wondered if this theme pops up now, mid January, because the “resolutions” we set have not held, we have gone through the post-holiday blues, and we are back to focusing on our day to day lives…

As I sat and listened to my clients describe their productivity-issues, I “felt into” their lives to gather more data about the problem… (more…)




Liz’s Theme of The Week 12/25-1/7: Love Your Life Now
January 8, 2017
Liz's Theme,Mindfulness,Self-Help — By Liz Varney

I had decided not do a Theme of the Week during the week of Christmas and New Years, but a theme emerged and was so present- and continued to be so, that my Theme for this blog is really of the past two weeks.

This theme is a big one: Love Your Life Now

Now I could go in so many different directions with this theme, however what was coming up these past two weeks is essentially a variation on “You don’t know what you got til its gone.” I could title this blog just that, however you know that I like to spin towards the positive, and in my eyes, the bright side of “you don’t know what you got til its gone” is: Love Your Life Now.

The theme started with an early morning scroll through social media before I started my work day. (more…)




Liz’s Theme of the Week: “A Speedy, Grumpy, Dreadful Christmas, Part 4: This is NOT how I want it!”
December 21, 2016

For the final chapter of the “A Speedy, Grumpy, Dreadful Christmas” series, I must address those of us who may be down in the dumps this holiday season, because this year: “This is NOT how I want it.”

For many people the holidays are a time to join together, celebrate with the ones you love, and reflect back on the year…yet for many others this time can be incredibly difficult.
For anyone who has experienced loss, (more…)